A Common Question About Marriage in the Bible
Marriage is one of the most sacred relationships described in Scripture. Many people see figures like Abraham, Jacob, David, and Solomon with multiple wives and wonder: does this mean God approves of polygamy?
In this post, we’ll explore what the Bible truly teaches about marriage and what it means for believers today.
1. God’s Original Design: One Man, One Woman
From the beginning, God’s plan for marriage is simple and profound:
“Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.” — Genesis 2:24
Jesus reaffirmed this design:
“Have you not read that he who created them from the beginning made them male and female… the two shall become one flesh?” — Matthew 19:4–5
God intended marriage to be a monogamous, lifelong covenant reflecting unity, faithfulness, and love.
2. Polygamy in the Old Testament: Described, Not Commanded
Many Old Testament figures had multiple wives. Abraham, Jacob, David, and Solomon all practiced polygamy. But Scripture does not celebrate these actions.
Common consequences of polygamy in the Bible:
- Rivalry between wives
- Family conflict
- Spiritual compromise
3. God’s Law Regulated Polygamy to Protect the Vulnerable
When God gave the Law, He regulated polygamy, assuming it existed. For example:
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Exodus 21:10 – Required care for multiple wives
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Deuteronomy 21:15–17 – Protected inheritance rights
Insight: These laws were harm-reducing, not God’s ideal. His original plan was still monogamy.
4. The New Testament Reaffirms Monogamy
By Jesus’ time, monogamy was reaffirmed:
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Jesus (Matthew 19:4–6): Refers back to Genesis 2:24
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Paul (1 Corinthians 7:2; Ephesians 5:31–33): Upholds monogamous marriage
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Church leadership (1 Timothy 3:2; Titus 1:6): Leaders must be “the husband of one wife”
The New Testament does not endorse polygamy, confirming that monogamy reflects God’s design.
5. What “Husband of One Wife” Really Means
Being “the husband of one wife” implies:
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Monogamy – Not having multiple wives
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Marital faithfulness – Loving and honoring one’s spouse
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Spiritual integrity – Modeling moral and relational maturity
It’s both a marital and a character standard, especially for church leaders.
6. Practical Application for Today
God’s design is clear: Marriage = one man + one woman in lifelong covenant
For believers: Monogamy and faithfulness reflect God’s ideal and safeguard families
Scripture is honest: Polygamy appears in the Bible but it is not God's design, but man's and often brings trouble
Understanding Scripture helps us distinguish between what God allows temporarily and His perfect plan.
God’s Ideal for Marriage
The Bible records polygamy, but God’s design has always been monogamous. His standard emphasizes faithfulness, unity, and covenant love, reflecting Christ’s love for the Church.
“Marriage is meant to reflect Christ’s love for His Church — one, faithful, and everlasting.”
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